I am a small town girl from Freeport Maine. Raised in a upper middle class family and taught to get good grades, go to college, get a good job (working for someone else) and save for retirement…
Good Grades? Graduated from a TINY public high school with 4.0 gpa-CHECK
Go to College? Busted my butt and graduated with Health Science Pre-Med Degree from University of Miami in 3.5 years-CHECK
Get a good job? After grad school at USC Keck School of Medicine, I landed a job with the top private practice Dermatology group in Los Angeles-CHECK
Is this it? I worked really hard to get here but am I supposed to accept that I completed my life’s goals before the age of 25? Am I supposed to just keep my head down and work for someone else while saving for my retirement for the next 40-50 years? I had that feeling inside my gut that many of you reading this blog have right now…an inner gnawing at my core…I like my life buuutttt…there is no way that this is it? There must be another chapter…
Fast forward 15 years, I will always love my initial career as a Dermatology P.A. but now I balance my love for my patients along with being a business owner, increasing my real estate portfolio, and speaking all over the country to help others learn how to run a start up company, effectively negotiate a salary and advance their career, learn how to mediate in times of conflict, and how to live a life of fulfillment and satisfaction. I get to call 3 amazing states “home” which allows me to be physically in person at Wrigley Field to cheer for the Chicago Cubs during the playoffs, to root for the U of Miami Hurricanes during pre-season games, and dress up to congratulate my celebrity friends on the Hollywood red carpet during award season! I frequently travel the world with my husband (and sometimes I even get to take my 100lb bulldog along for the ride).
Seems like a great life right? I won’t lie. Most days (not all) are pretty amazing! Since my husband and I made the personal decision at age 30 not to have kids, we recently made a commitment at age 40 that we will teach the next generation how to recognize their potential, set achievable goals, overcome limiting beliefs, let go of fear of the uncertain, become confident decision makers and negotiators, and take massive action to guarantee that their life experience will elevate to something they could never have imagined!
Secret Tip: College and good grades didn’t matter as much as I thought for this journey. Whether you realize it or not, you have the ability at any stage in life, college or not, to become the next self made boss! The recipe is 80% psychology and 20% determination. You have the ability to be the Goalmother or Goalfather of your destiny right now!
Secret Confession: Despite how the beginning of this story started, the early days wasn’t all peaches and cream and weren’t an easy road for me. The pressure to achieve good grades and my competitive nature drove me to suffer from debilitating anxiety and panic attacks in college that landed me in the E.R. most Saturday nights instead of out on the town or dancing in a south beach night club. I overcame 2 years of chronic fatigue syndrome and Fibromyalgia symptoms in my late 20s that had me almost bedridden for 2 years. Much of my career has been successful to the outside person but inside I was suffering, drowning in a sea of self doubt and insecurity about the future. I learned how to hustle every day for my start up company and for my patients even though some days the stress and obstacles were so intense I didn’t even want to get out of bed! Yup, I am human…and guess what? So are you! I work hard everyday to overcome anxiety, frustrations, and fears and most days I win the battle and you can too!
I invite you to step up your game, learn from my successes (and failures), and become the leader of next generation of self made bosses!
“I learned more in the streets than I did in any classroom” -Don Vito Corleone
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