I like Cheez-Its. Yup I admit it. And my friends in Malibu are probably chocking on a piece of kale leaf salad right now disgusted by my secret admission for my love for scrumptious packaged salty snacks. But it’s true, and I am coming out of the closet today once and for all…salty snacks and me…we are best friends!
Why am I sharing my deepest emotional eating secrets on my homepage? Why share this information with complete strangers when I could keep it to myself and keep up the façade of living the kale filled, cauliflower crust, life that others expect of me?
This recent admission is symbolic of an admission that I made to myself 10 years ago when I was 7 years into a successful professional career as Dermatology PA. After growing up in small town Freeport Maine, being raised in a upper middle class family and taught to get good grades, go to college, go to grad school, get married, get a good job (working for someone else) and save for retirement I made the difficult admission to myself….I wasn’t living my passion…I was living the life that I “trapped myself in” because of what others expected of me.
My first admission to myself was in 2009 after 7 years practicing as a successful Dermatology PA, I took a leap of faith when I admitted that I wasn’t 100% fulfilled and wanted to serve others on a higher level and started my first company. Followed by a second admission in 2012 followed by another admission in 2016. Fast forward 10 years since my first admission to myself and my first step into the great unknown, the world of fear and uncertainty, and the beginning of my lifelong journey and three companies later and I can honestly say that I have never looked back. I had that gnaw at my core that many of you have reading this right now…there must be more…I acted on that feeling and it has been the scariest, most thrilling, and rewarding decision of my life.
I have so much gratitude for my initial career as a Dermatology P.A. and for those who helped shape who I am today. Early mentors in my life helped me learn powerful skills like leadership, team building, communication, and of course a commitment to ongoing education.
Today, because I took scary leaps of faith, I live my life on my own terms, not on the expectations of others. I have learned how to overcome frustration, anger, and fear in almost any circumstance. Now I know what and how to spend my time and energy the most efficient way possible to deliver myself the results I want for my own life. I know how to wake up every morning grateful for the life I created…nobody to blame or thank but myself for where I am today…me.
As I reach middle age, I am making a commitment from this day forward to always be honest with myself, to support and nurture myself, and to be there as a lifeline for others, maybe you, who are afraid to make an admission to themselves. You don’t think I know you but if you are reading my home page I know you have a deeper true potential, you have new crazy and scary goals that you want to set for yourself, you want to get over your trapped feeling, or your long list of limiting beliefs once and for all! I see you…and I get it…you desperately want the courage to embrace the world of the uncertain!
I promise that you can be confident decision maker. You can be a powerful negotiator. You can overcome fear. And believe it or not you have the complete power and control to take massive action and guarantee that you are living life on your terms! (cue the pom poms)
Pro Tip: Age and professional experience are not limiting factors. Whether you realize it or not, you have the ability at any stage in life, college or not, business experience or not, to become the next self made boss! The recipe is 80% psychology and 20% determination. The first step is admitting to yourself what you want in life? What are your goals? What gets your juices flowing and makes you light up? Are you limiting yourself by your own fear or limiting beliefs? Do you feel stuck in your current routine and can’t figure a way out? If your mindset is right, if you are honest and admit to yourself that you want more, literally anything is possible at any stage of life! (cue those pom poms again!)
More Confessions: Yup. I have more secret confessions than a Cheez-it and salty snack addiction (LOL!). There will be obstacles. Sometimes big obstacles. The early days weren’t all peaches and cream for me. The pressure to achieve good grades and my competitive nature drove me to suffer from debilitating anxiety and panic attacks in college that made me physically sick. I am talking E.R. visits on most Saturday nights instead of out on the town or dancing in a south beach night club kind of sick. I overcame 2 years of chronic fatigue syndrome and Fibromyalgia symptoms in my late 20s that had me almost bedridden for 2 years. Some days the stress and obstacles were so intense I didn’t even want to get out of bed. Looking back now I wonder how much of this was a result of me not being honest with myself? Not admitting to myself that I was living life on other peoples terms? I was suffering, drowning in a sea of self doubt and insecurity about the future. Once I made the admission to myself that I wanted more and I committed to massive change, I set myself free! I became energized to hustle every day for my start up companies even though many would argue that the obstacles were far greater than ever before! I won’t lie, the feelings of anxiety, anger and fear still creep back from time to time but now I have skills to keep those emotions in check and not let them get in the way of my progress, happiness, or future.
So now you know all my secrets…yup, I am human…and guess what? So are you!
Have you admitted to yourself once and for all if you are truly happy and fulfilled in your life? Have you made a commitment to yourself to live life on your terms? Are you taking charge today and implementing the massive changes that are needed to shift your future!
I invite you to come clean and admit the truth to yourself…and choose Cheez Its over Kale if that’s your thing!
“I learned more in the streets than I did in any classroom” -Don Vito Corleone
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